The day has finally arrived. My move to Canada is here. As you’re reading this I’m already in the air and probably half way across the Atlantic. I’ve had a few doubts; I still have doubts but a wise person said to me recently that I need this adventure and not to falter so close to the finish line, I’d only regret it if I did. You know what? He’s right. I still can’t believe that I’m actually doing this.
So I said all my goodbyes this past month. I was dreading that part. I was so touched by my aunt’s and her partner’s efforts to throw me a surprise going away party, full of karaoke, lasers and the obligatory calling to the door of the police. Yes the police did call to my aunt’s house – awkward! But we didn’t let that stop us having fun. It’s been an emotional week saying my final goodbye to my closest friends and a job that I absolutely LOVE.
Of course it hasn’t helped that I watched Brooklyn last weekend. It broke my heart to see Eilis, amazingly portrayed by Soairse Ronan, having to leave Ireland for work and how homesick she was in America. There’s a strong history of emigration here in Ireland since the time of The Famine. I began thinking of the millions of Irish people who left these shores for a better life in America or England. All their hopes and dreams were tied up in one country.
They left because they had to, no prospect of work. Some would never see their families again, just letters to keep in contact. My own grandmother left at the age of 17 to England, although she left to chase after a boyfriend, but she still left. And she returned to Ireland many years later. She was terribly upset at the thought of me leaving and would constantly say to me that I might change my mind and not go. I reminded her how she went England and she exclaimed that it was different times. Yes it is different times, thankfully.
Gone are the days of people leaving and never coming back to visit family. Gone are the days where your only means of contact are letters that would take weeks to arrive. Air travel has come on in leaps and bounds with more routes and cheaper flights. We have so many options to keep in contact with our loved ones, and it’s instant. So while I used the word goodbye, it isn’t really goodbye. I will be keeping in contact with my loved ones through Viber, Facebook, and Skype. I’ll also be coming home, my cousin will be getting married in 2018 and she has asked me to sing for her wedding. There is no way I’m missing that.
So it’s not goodbye, just farewell for now ☺ Have you moved to a different country? How did you cope leaving your friends and family?